Good Morning Digital Neighbors and Friends! I see the Rams won, I hope the commercials were good, I have lost interest in all things Super Bowly in the last 10 years. I was never a strong or dedicated fan, more of a play-offs person and even that waned in the last decade. I hope your parties were a hoot! It is great to have two unscheduled holidays - Super Bowl Sunday and Over-did-it Monday.
Ageless Wisdom: A Treasury of Quotes to Motivate and Inspire. It is really a good collection of quotes that often gives the occasion or context of when or where the quotes originated. I appreciate that a lot instead of just being a quote with no known context. It doesn't change the meaning as much as help situate it in history. We will do some visiting with the wonderful collection of quotes this week. I smuggled in a couple last week on friendship.
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J.S. Felts is a writer and author living in the United States. He is a former U.S. Marine, who has gone on to serve as a deputy sheriff for the past twenty-seven years. He and his wife, Ashley, have been married for 23 years and live in West Monroe, LA, where they are currently raising their seven children. They can be followed on the YouTube channel, THE FELTS FAMILY, where they share their lives, while advocating for adoption and those with special needs.
On to the quotes! Some thoughts on candor. for a Monday morning.
There is nothing in the world more difficult than candor and nothing easier than flattery. - Fyodor Dostoevsky Crime and Punishment
If people would dare to speak to one another unreservedly, there would be a good deal less sorrow in the world a hundred years hence. - Samuel Butler (19th Century), The Way of All Flesh
Candor and generosity, which, unless tempered by due moderation, lead to ruin. -Tacitus Histories
I like wit, I appreciate a clever smart-ass, and I don't mind people who are direct. There is a profound lack of candor in the culture anymore. Somewhere between being overly polite, an insincere flatterer, and the gleeful embrace of cancel culture is candor. Perhaps candor has gone out the window because respect has gone out the window as well.
I think what separates candor from being blunt, or "telling it like it is" is the desire to be heard and comprehended. It doesn't take much to be blunt, it is one of the easiest things in the world to speak your mind when you care nothing about the consequences, and at that times it is very fitting. Hardened enemies will not change their mind short of actual defeat and inescapable failure. Being blunt with them is often a service to everyone.
To speak your mind with candor to someone who wants to listen is to tell them a truth, fact or bit of information that while it may evoke a negative response, you hope it invites them to listen and wrestle with what you said. The responsibility of communication lies with the communicator, not the recipient. However, if the recipient is not in a receptive state, the sooner you recognize that, the quicker you can move on from a mutual waste of time.
Candor - a lot less of it these days, many who may want to speak with candor are so unpracticed, inarticulate, and emotionally compromised that the candor they desire to speak is often compromised by their own anger, immaturity or pettiness. People of mutual respect seem more likely to have as shot a having conversations with candor than those who do not. Good friends or family, speaking with candor can do more good than legions of flatterers who tell you nothing of consequence.
Red from that 70's Show walks the edge between being overly blunt and speaking with candor. I never watched the series, but I had a collection of their wav files for my sound effect back in the days of windows 95. Happy Monday my friends!
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