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Today marks the three hundred and thirtieth birthday of the Frenchman François-Marie Arouet, better known by his nom de plume, Voltaire (1694-1778).

Born into a bourgeois family during the reign of Louis XIV, the “Sun King” (r. 1643-1715), Voltaire suffered tragedy at a young age when his mother died. Never close with his father or brother, Voltaire exhibited a rebellious attitude toward authority from his youth. His brilliant mind was fostered in the care of the Society of Jesus, who introduced him to the joys of literature and theater. Despite his later criticisms against the Church, Voltaire, throughout his life, fondly recalled his dedicated Jesuit teachers.

Although he spent time as a civil servant in the French embassy to the Hague, Voltaire’s main love was writing—an endeavor where he excelled in various genres, including poetry, which led to his appointment as the royal court poet for King Louis XV. Widely recognized as one of the greatest French writers, and even hyperbolically referred to by ...

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Race Power Politics For Me, But Not For Thee

And: Literal Ben Op; Power & Culture; Santorum Redux; Shavian Magic; 'Mein Cheeks'

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Texas Democratic legislative leader Gene Wu advocates a non-white alliance ‘to take over this country.’ And we wonder why young white males are radicalizing…

Here is a prime example of the Weimarization of America — to be specific, what is driving an already unstable polity closer to the brink. Click on this link to hear what the Chinese-American leader of the Democrats in the Texas (!) state legislature says. Quote: “Non-whites share the same oppressor, and we are the majority now. We can take over this country.”

You all well know that I fear and loathe the racialized radicalism of white males on the Right, but damn it, the Left got there first, and continues to push it. You cannot create a politics based on non-white racial identity, and expect whites not to respond in kind, if only for self-protection. The path to illiberal-left identity politics embraced by Democrats and the Left more broadly has led to this.

Meghan McCain points out that people on the Left who miss her normie Republican father are forgetting how they demonized him, and later mainstream Republican politicians, a process that led to, well, take it away, Wilfred Reilly (who is black):

  

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The Literal Benedict Option

  

That’s a tweet from a leading pagan thinker — and history supports his conclusion. Monasticism exploded in the late fourth century, throughout the fifth century, as the Western Roman Empire was in its death throes. They were escaping a doomed world without purpose. I shared this information with a priest last night, who reported that the abbot of a traditional Orthodox monastery told him that since Covid, they have had so many young men flocking to their monastery, hoping to join, that they can scarcely accommodate them. Sign of the times.

Power And Culture

Did you watch the Super Bowl? I didn’t. Could not possibly care less. But TPUSA tried to counterprogram the Bad Bunny halftime show. Didn’t work. Thus:

  

He’s not wrong about the culture, but I gotta ask: how will political power be deployed to advance the culture that Engel prefers? Hard to imagine a democratic way of doing this. Engel knows this, and doesn’t care. He’s into racial identity politics … but on what grounds would Gene Wu fault him without being a racist hypocrite?

Today’s ‘Rick Santorum Vindication’ News

The C. Jay Engelses come from somewhere. Back in the Olden Times, in 2003, when your correspondent was but a thirtysomething, then-US Sen. Rick Santorum gave an interview in which he commented on the sodomy law case then before the Supreme Court. Excerpts from the transcript:

[Santorum]: I have no problem with homosexuality. I have a problem with homosexual acts. As I would with acts of other, what I would consider to be, acts outside of traditional heterosexual relationships. And that includes a variety of different acts, not just homosexual. I have nothing, absolutely nothing against anyone who’s homosexual. If that’s their orientation, then I accept that. And I have no problem with someone who has other orientations. The question is, do you act upon those orientations? So it’s not the person, it’s the person’s actions. And you have to separate the person from their actions.

And then:

[Santorum:] In every society, the definition of marriage has not ever to my knowledge included homosexuality. That’s not to pick on homosexuality. It’s not, you know, man on child, man on dog, or whatever the case may be. It is one thing. And when you destroy that you have a dramatic impact on the quality—

[Reporter:]I’m sorry, I didn’t think I was going to talk about “man on dog” with a United States Senator. It’s sort of freaking me out.

[Santorum]: And that’s sort of where we are in today’s world, unfortunately.

By 2015, ex-Sen. Santorum had been tamed, saying he very much regrets his dog-on-man remark, and, of Bruce Jenner, “If he says he’s a woman, then he’s a woman.”

Well, if you have a strong stomach, here’s a story from Wales about Darren Meah-Moore, a well-known (as in, was once on RuPaul’s Drag Race) local drag queen was found dead, in full drag, after a night of sexual debauchery that ended with him having sex with a number of men in a local park. One of the men was a gay bloke out walking his dog late at night, and who took advantage of the opportunity to pleasure himself with Meah-Moore … until the dog joined in, and the dog-walker lost interest. Meah-Moore instructed his insta-lover to leave the tumescent dog alone. The coroner found sexual, um, residue from both man and beast inside Meah-Moore’s body.

From the story:

He performed CPR until paramedics took over but Meah-Moore was pronounced dead at the scene. The inquest heard tributes from Meah-Moore's father and husband [emphasis mine — RD] who described him as "caring" and "right at the heart of Cardiff's gay community".

Charming. A gay community leader. Now, there can be no doubt that Santorum’s 2003 remarks were ill-advised, to put it charitably. We have had gay marriage for some time now, thanks to the 2015 Obergefell decision, which drew on the 2003 Lawrence decision decriminalizing sodomy. I am unaware that we have seen an upsurge in man-on-dog action as a result. Nor am I aware that the public has become more accepting of bestiality as a result. So Santorum was wrong, in a meaningful sense.

Nevertheless, it’s worth considering Santorum’s point in light of Meah-Moore’s disgraceful end. In the Lawrence decision, the always-perspicacious Justice Antonin Scalia, in his dissent (scroll down) from the pro-sodomy majority, pointed out that if the State has no right to set laws barring certain forms of sexual conduct, then we have a sexual free-for-all. In Lawrence, the court held that the state has no right to forbid consensual sodomy — but, said Scalia, the rationale it used would mean that no law forbidding any consensual sexual activity could stand. From his dissent:

The Texas statute undeniably seeks to further the belief of its citizens that certain forms of sexual behavior are “immoral and unacceptable,” Bowers, supra, at 196—the same interest furthered by criminal laws against fornication, bigamy, adultery, adult incest, bestiality, and obscenity. Bowers held that this was a legitimate state interest. The Court today reaches the opposite conclusion. The Texas statute, it says, “furthers no legitimate state interest which can justify its intrusion into the personal and private life of the individual,” ante, at 578 (emphasis added). The Court embraces instead Justice Stevens’ declaration in his Bowers dissent, that “ ‘the fact that the governing majority in a State has traditionally viewed a particular practice as immoral is not a sufficient reason for upholding a law prohibiting the practice,’ ” ante, at 577. This effectively decrees the end of all morals legislation. If, as the Court asserts, the promotion of majoritarian sexual morality is not even a legitimate state interest, none of the above-mentioned laws can survive rational-basis review.

Scalia clarified that for him, this is not about homosexuality per se, but about the right of a democratic people to enact their own moral standards into law. He pointed out that the fact that Texas was at the time one of the few states to still have anti-sodomy laws on its books was a sign of how successful gay activists and their allies had been at persuading people, democratically, to overturn them. Said Scalia:

But persuading one’s fellow citizens is one thing, and imposing one’s views in absence of democratic majority will is something else. I would no more require a State to criminalize homosexual acts—or, for that matter, display any moral disapprobation of them—than I would forbid it to do so.

He went on:

One of the benefits of leaving regulation of this matter to the people rather than to the courts is that the people, unlike judges, need not carry things to their logical conclusion.

Translation: if this kind of thing is left up to legislatures, then they can decriminalize sodomy without having to decriminalize other sexual acts that deviate from the heterosexual norm. (This, by the way, is why I opposed the Texas sodomy law even back in 2003, despite considering sodomy to be gravely sinful; yet I agreed with Scalia’s dissent for precisely the reasons he gave.)

Based on the reasoning in Lawrence, I don’t understand on what logical basis the courts would be able to uphold morals laws in any matter involving “consent.” In the case of Meah-Moore and Fido, the fact that Fido was the active party in that coupling is prima facie evidence that Fido consented to the evil act. Had Meah-Moore enjoyed his final canoodle with Fido in an American park, it would no doubt have broken the law (I presume anti-bestiality laws are still on the books), but on what logical grounds is bestiality considered illegal? Consent? Seems pretty thin, especially in a case in which the human is the passive partner.

Which, I think, is the point Santorum inelegantly tried to make.

I remember back in those Olden Times, we were assured that legalizing same-sex marriage would tame the passions of gay men in the same way marriage tames the passions of straight men: by channeling them into a binding commitment to a single partner. I wonder what Meah-Moore’s widower thinks about that.

There’s something about this ugly case that reminds me of the plot of Arthur C. Clarke’s 1950s sci-fi novel Childhood’s End, in which the aliens who come to rule the earth do not reveal themselves until many decades had passed, and humanity had had engineered out of its collective imagination the traditional image of demons with horns, hooves, and tails. Because that’s exactly how the alien rulers look! That is to say, by the time the rulers reveal themselves, people have forgotten — or, to be precise, been made to forget, what demons look like.

Drag queens and transvestites have been with us for ages, but only in the last thirty years or so were they normalized, and seen not as a form of clown (at best) or degenerate at worst. Now we have people taking their children to Drag Queen Story Hour, and little boys who dress as women celebrated on national TV. Fortunately, we are still a society that recoils in horror at what Meah-Moore got up to in the park that night. For now. But ask yourself: why is what he did illegal?

You might say, “He did it in public.” OK, but what if it had happened in his own home? The US Supreme Court declared in Lawrence that if people decide to engage in sodomy in their own dwellings, it is no business of the state. And I agree with that result (the lawsuit had been brought by a Texas gay couple who had been charged with sodomy after police entered their home and caught them in flagrante). But as Scalia said, the legal reasoning the Supreme Court used to get to that result in principle kicks out the supports for any morals legislation.

Again, “consent” is a tissue-thin barrier to any number of inhuman acts. As disgusting as you no doubt find what Meah-Moore did, would you consider that it ought to be legal, at least in private, on the grounds that it was a private, consensual act? If not, why not? If the animal had been the passive partner, you could have said it was a case of animal abuse. But the dog was the active partner, who willingly participated.

To use the Court’s language, what is the “legitimate state interest” that justifies intrusion of the state into the private life of Darren Meah-Moore, if he chose to make his body available for the sexual gratification of a dog, especially in private?

I know it’s a revolting thing to consider, but here we are. What are the legal grounds to continue to forbid polygamy among consenting adults? What about forbidding incest between two consenting adults who are sterile (meaning that they cannot produce children)? In the UK, first cousin marriage remains legal, even though the Pakistani community there, which still practices it, has an unusually high percentage of mental and physical defectives produced by incest (e.g., Pakistani Britons account for only 3 percent of the population, but produce 30 percent of children born with serious genetic defects). You could justify banning consanguinous sex on the grounds that incest produces disabled offspring, but again, what if the partners are sterile?

So much of the moral order depends on the collective memory of Christianity, which provided grounding in authoritative transcendence as the basis for law. And that is disappearing. Don’t be surprised when illiberal right-wingers like Engel arise to say there’s no saving this corrupt democratic order, because liberalism has rotted the moral judgment of the people. I’m not endorsing that view; I’m just saying its comprehensible in Weimar America. And it will increasingly be persuasive.

Once more: the legalization of sodomy, and then of same-sex marriage, did not produce a mania for bestiality (though the idea that extending marriage to same-sex couples would curb homosexual male rutting has been disproven; most gay male marriages allow for extramarital sex). Still, the moral question remains: why is bestiality illegal, given that “yuck!” is not considered a sufficient legal argument?

Martin Shaw’s Travels

In more upbuilding news, I got this from a reader who went to see Martin Shaw in Pittsburgh the other night:

Martin was here!

I learned of the event after it was already sold out. With some luck and more than a touch of Grace I managed to get a ticket anyway.

A friend asked me this morning how things went. This is what I said:

“It was like when you stand on a beach and hear the water coming in wave after wave and you notice a stillness as the water recedes, and then how in the rhythm of the crashing waves there’s also a stillness. And, how before you know it you are still inside and everything else fades into the background. Everything except the awe, wonder, and the love the deepest part of you recognized when your toes touched the sand.”

Thank you for introducing me/us to Martin’s work.

Martin is on a book tour in the US behind Liturgies Of The Wild: Myths That Make Us.

Here he is in a teaser for a new video course, “Tales Of Christian Initiation,” telling the story of Ruth and Boaz. Please watch to get an idea of his charisma.

I’m telling you, if you have the chance to see and hear this man live, take it! And while you’re at it, subscribe to “The House Of Beasts & Vines,” Martin’s Substack. Finally, here’s a link to the Martin Shaw website, which features prominently a quote from none other than Iain McGilchrist, who describes Martin as “our greatest living storyteller.” I believe it.

Martin will appear at the Orthodox Christian Arts Festival this Friday night. It will be held in an Orthodox church in Carrollton, TX (DFW area). Go! You won’t regret it.

Clavicular’s Really Bad Arizona Weekend

It seems that the celebrated Zoomer weirdo who goes by the name Clavicular, and who taps on his cheekbones with a hammer to “looksmaxx” himself, found himself in an uncomfortable situation over the weekend:

  

What on earth does that mean? This tweet breaks down the slang for you, my fellow Olds. Meanwhile, enjoy Charlie Cooke’s Wodehousian take on the matter:

“Jeeves,” I said, “you look . . . pensive.”
“I confess to a slight concern, sir.”
That, from Jeeves, is rather like hearing that the Bank of England has “a slight concern” about the stability of the pound. It makes you sit up.
“Concern, Jeeves?”
“Concern, sir. I ran into Lady Flashcome this morning, who informed me that that, last night at the Drones, Viscount Clavicular was mid jestergooning, when a group of Foids came and spiked his Cortisol levels.”
“Well, I’m bound!” I said, nodding the old bean. “So that’s what it is, is it? Most interesting.”
I paused.
“Jeeves?”
“Yes, sir.”
“I confess I didn’t quite follow that.”
“Understandable, sir. The essential question, as I understand it, is whether ignoring the foids while munting and mogging moids is more useful than SMV chadfishing in the club.”
“Come again, Jeeves,” I said, for though I had caught the words as they came out, the meaning had slipped past me like one of those greased eels making a dash for the open sea.
“In plain terms, sir, the speaker is asking whether it is more advantageous, in a social setting, to disregard women entirely while attempting to dominate or impress other men through vulgarity and competitive posturing, rather than attempting to attract women by means of artificially inflating one’s perceived desirability—particularly through the presentation of a false identity suggesting superior physical attractiveness and social value.”
I stared.
“In other words,” Jeeves continued smoothly, “it is a comparison between two strategies for attaining social status: one based upon humiliating rivals and cultivating masculine hierarchy, and the other based upon deceiving prospective romantic partners by misrepresenting one’s own attractiveness.”
He coughed politely.
“Neither approach, sir, would generally be considered conducive to the development of sincere human relationships.”

Worse, Clav got brutally frame-mogged by an Arizona State frat boy. And if that weren’t enough, the hope of a generation was arrested for trying to get into a bar with a fake ID, and ended up with two felony chargesO tempora! O mores!

Assuming he is literate, I only hope this young man can take advantage of his jailhouse tenure to do as another young visionary a century earlier did while incarcerated, and produce a world-changing manifesto:

  

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The Beautiful Things About Being A Man (That Nobody’s Allowed to Say Anymore)
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It’s 3:47 AM.

I’m standing in my kitchen, drinking water from a gallon jug like a fucking Clydesdale, and I just got back from the gym where I moved things that didn’t want to be moved.

And I’m thinking about something nobody talks about anymore.

The beauty of being a man.

Not the Andrew Tate cartoon version. Not the “toxic masculinity” punching bag that gets dragged out every time a man does something stupid. Not the sitcom dad who can’t operate a washing machine without burning down the house.

The real shit.

The quiet, unspoken, absolutely fucking magnificent things about carrying this particular burden through the world.


WE FIX THINGS

 

I don’t mean we’re good at fixing things.

I mean we’re WIRED to fix things.

Something breaks? A man doesn’t see a problem. He sees a puzzle that hasn’t been solved yet. His brain immediately starts running scenarios. What tool do I need? What’s the sequence? How do I make this work again?

It’s not about the object. It’s about the RESTORATION.

Watching a man fix something is watching an ancient ritual play out in real time. The same focus our ancestors had tracking a wounded animal through the brush, except now it’s a garbage disposal that’s making a weird noise.

You know what happens inside a man when he fixes something his family needed fixed?

Dopamine.

Purpose.

The primal satisfaction of: I made this world work for the people I love.

And society wants to pathologize that? Call it “compulsive problem-solving” or “inability to just listen”?

No.

It’s fucking beautiful.

It’s a man doing what men were BUILT to do.


WE CARRY THINGS

 

Not just physical weight…though yes, that too.

I’ve moved furniture. I’ve carried crying children up stairs when I could barely stand. I’ve loaded trucks in 110-degree Texas heat until my shirt was soaked through and my back felt like it might snap.

But that’s not what I’m talking about.

I’m talking about the weight we carry that nobody sees.

The worry we don’t voice. The fear we don’t show. The absolute certainty that we are the last line of defense between our family and whatever’s coming.

You know why men check the locks before bed? Why we walk on the street side of the sidewalk? Why we wake up to every sound in the middle of the night?

Because we know.

We know that if something comes through that door, everyone is looking at us. Not because we asked for that responsibility. Because it’s coded into our fucking DNA.

A man walks through the world knowing that if shit goes sideways, he’s expected to handle it. To absorb the impact. To be the breakwater against whatever storm is coming.

And we do it.

Not because we want praise. Not because we expect a medal.

Because that’s what men do.


WE BUILD

 

A man sees empty space and thinks: Something should go there.

Not always useful. Not always pretty. But SOMETHING.

We build sheds we don’t need. Decks that serve no purpose. We frame out basements we’ll never finish. We start projects that will take years, knowing full well we might not see the end.

Why?

Because the ACT of building is the point.

Something exists that didn’t exist before. Something came from our hands, our planning, our vision. We took raw materials and turned them into order.

When a man dies, you know what he leaves behind?

Not his words. Not his “emotional availability.”

The things he built.

The house he improved. The business he grew. The family he helped construct from nothing but love and sheer fucking stubbornness.

My grandfather built a barn that’s still standing. He’s been dead for thirty years. But every time I drive by it, I see him. His hands are in those beams. His decisions are in that foundation.

That’s legacy.

That’s what a man leaves in the world.


WE PROTECT

 

And I don’t just mean physically.

Although yes…when the world tells us that male protection instincts are “problematic,” I want to grab the world by its shoulders and shake it.

You know why women feel safe walking with a man at night? It’s not patriarchy. It’s fucking biology. It’s ten thousand generations of men being the ones who faced the wolves, who stood watch by the fire, who put themselves between danger and their people.

But the protection goes deeper than that.

A man protects his family’s dignity by working a job he hates. A man protects his children’s future by saying no to things he wants. A man protects his wife’s peace by absorbing stress he’ll never tell her about.

That moment when the bills are tight and you’re doing math in your head at 2 AM, figuring out which thing to sacrifice so nobody else has to know there’s a problem?

That’s protection.

The times you smiled and said “everything’s fine” when everything was absolutely not fine…because your worry being their worry would only make things worse?

That’s protection.

We’re not “emotionally unavailable.”

We’re the fucking levee.


WE SHOW UP

 

Not always gracefully.

Not always with the right words.

But we show up.

A man doesn’t need to understand why his presence matters to his kid’s baseball game. He just shows up. He doesn’t need to “feel like” going to the school play. He shows up. He doesn’t need to be emotionally prepared for the hard conversation. He shows up.

Because presence IS the gift.

You know what your dad sitting in the bleachers meant when you were seven? It didn’t matter if he was scrolling his phone or watching every pitch. His ASS IN THAT SEAT was the message.

I chose to be here.

You matter enough for me to be here.

Whatever else I could be doing, I’m doing THIS.

Men don’t always have the vocabulary for love. Probably never will. We’re not built for poetry. We’re built for showing up.

And when you’re old, and you’re remembering the people who loved you, you won’t remember what they said.

You’ll remember who was there.


WE SACRIFICE QUIETLY

 

Here’s the one that kills me.

A man will sacrifice half his life and never expect a thank you.

He’ll work a job that’s slowly destroying his body. He’ll skip the thing he wanted so his kids could have the thing they wanted. He’ll eat last, sleep least, spend nothing on himself.

And when you ask him what he wants for Christmas, he’ll say “nothing.”

Because he actually means it.

The sacrifice IS the point. The giving IS the reward. The knowledge that his people are taken care of…that’s the only payment he needs.

Society calls this “not being in touch with his needs.” Therapists call it “poor self-care.”

I call it the most beautiful thing a human can do.

The willingness to pour yourself out for others and expect nothing in return.

That’s not dysfunction.

That’s LOVE in its purest, most ancient, most masculine form.


THE TRUTH NOBODY WANTS YOU TO HEAR

 

We’ve spent a generation telling men that everything about them is broken.

Their strength is violent. Their protection is controlling. Their silence is toxic. Their sacrifice is self-neglect. Their love is inadequate.

And you know what happened?

We raised a generation of men who don’t know who they are. Who apologize for existing. Who’ve been convinced that their instincts are diseases that need to be cured.

I was one of them.

I spent 24 years trying to sand down every rough edge. Trying to be softer, quieter, smaller. Trying to fit into a shape that was never going to fit.

And I lost myself.

The wild one. The one who fixed things and built things and protected things. The one who showed up and sacrificed without expecting a goddamn thing in return.

I killed him trying to be something I was never meant to be.


HERE’S WHAT I’VE LEARNED

 

Being a man isn’t a diagnosis.

It’s a gift.

A strange, heavy, beautiful gift that comes with responsibilities nobody asked for and instincts that don’t always translate to modern life.

But those instincts…the fixing, the building, the protecting, the showing up, the sacrificing…they’re not bugs.

They’re features.

They’re the reason civilization exists. The reason your house has walls. The reason your children feel safe. The reason roads got built and fires got fought and families got fed through impossible winters.

Men aren’t broken versions of women.

We’re a different instrument entirely. Playing a different part in the same song.

And the song is more beautiful because we’re in it.


A MESSAGE TO THE MEN READING THIS

 

Brother.

I know you’re tired.

I know you’ve been told you’re the problem so many times you half believe it.

I know you feel like who you are is never quite right. Too much of this, not enough of that. Always needing to be fixed, improved, recalibrated.

Fuck that.

You were built exactly right.

Not for sitting in circles talking about your feelings. Not for performative sensitivity that makes other people comfortable.

You were built to carry weight. To build things. To protect people. To show up when everything in you wants to stay home. To sacrifice without complaint and love without expectation.

That’s not toxic.

That’s HEROIC.

And if nobody else is going to tell you today, let a crazy old man say it:

Being a man is a beautiful thing.

Own it.

Live it.

Stop apologizing for the very things that make you magnificent.


A MESSAGE TO THE WOMEN READING THIS

 

That man in your life?

The one who doesn’t talk about his feelings? Who “forgets” your anniversary but somehow remembers to check the oil in your car? Who shows love through doing instead of saying?

He’s not broken.

He’s not a project.

He’s not a puzzle you need to solve or a rough draft you need to edit.

He’s a man.

And the things that frustrate you about him are often the same things that protect you. That provide for you. That would throw themselves in front of traffic for you without a second thought.

Different doesn’t mean wrong.

Masculine doesn’t mean toxic.

Traditional doesn’t mean outdated.

The guy who can’t find the words to say “I love you” but gets up at 5 AM to scrape the ice off your windshield?

He’s saying it.

In the only language he knows.

And if you listen with your heart instead of your expectations, you’ll hear it loud and clear.

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November 12, 2025
What is Happening on the Right. And Why.
Konstantin Kisin's Substack

What is Happening on the Right. And Why.

 
Nov 03, 2025
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I remember reading a theory of history a long time ago which gave a persuasive explanation for why human societies seem to repeat the same mistakes over and over. Every generation, it said, only really learns what to do, how to think and which pitfalls to avoid from the two preceding generations with which it has direct contact. We don’t learn lessons from history so much as we learn them from our parents and grandparents. For proof of this, if you’re a man my age, you are likely to know a fair bit about WW2 and almost nothing about WWI. No one reading this who is not explicitly a history nerd will know much more than the meaningless basics about the Napoleonic Wars.

In other words, if history “repeats itself” or at least “rhymes”, it is because we are repeating the mistakes of our great grandparents, i.e. people who lived 80-90 years ago and could not personally warn us. As the saying goes, those who do not know history are doomed to repeat it, and those who do know history are doomed to watch others repeat it.

This is why, I think, many people cannot see what is happening on the right following the split which began with the invasion of Ukraine and was wedged open by the Israel-Hamas war.

The reason for this article is, of course, the unfolding events of the last few days here in the US, where I am in the middle of a month-long recording trip. It began when Tucker Carlson hosted Nick Fuentes on his show. Fuentes is a streamer on Rumble where he expresses his admiration for Hitler (“he’s very cool”), asks his followers to join in chants like “I will kill and rape for Nicolas J. Fuentes” and gives his latest takes on Jewish power in America, mixing all of this in with comments like “around blacks, never relax!”. When Tucker invited Fuentes on for a softball interview, many on the American right, who have been privately shocked by the recent direction some in their movement have taken, began to openly murmur about whether a dangerous line had been crossed.

In response, Kevin Roberts, CEO of the Heritage Foundation (whom we interviewed for TRIGGERnometry on our last visit) released a video in which he robustly defended Carlson against a “venomous coalition” which was engaging in “cancellation”. He pledged eternal friendship to the former Fox News anchor while also stating that he did not agree with Fuentes’ views.

This attempt to pacify both sides only stirred matters further. The following day, Roberts expressed disgust at Fuentes’ rhetoric and insisted that the answer was not to cancel but to engage.

The problem for Roberts is that this attempt to sit on two stools cannot work. This became clear in his interview with Dana Loesch. Throughout the interview Roberts repeatedly insisted that the answer to bad ideas is to engage them, while simultaneously saying that he would never host Fuentes at the Heritage Foundation or on his podcast. This is an obvious contradiction that even a slick political operator like Roberts cannot resolve. It’s not his fault that the generational and factional conflict within the right is coming to a head.

You cannot simultaneously appease people who believe in a fixed set of ideas and people who believe that the only ideas worth having are cynicism and revenge.

The BoomerCon establishment does not understand that Fuentes is not the problem, he is a symptom. And the reason they don’t understand that is that they don’t understand young men, who make up the overwhelming majority of his audience.

This entire phenomenon is driven by a number of factors which are affecting young men:

They are the most fatherless generation in history. A quarter of Gen Z grew up without a father present, up from just 9% in 1960. They’ve had less male guidance and direction than any group of men in American history, even the boys born after WW2, the most murderous war in human history which killed over 400,000 American men.

They did not experience the economic prosperity or political stability of the pre-9/11 era. Buying a house, especially in America’s major cities, becomes harder every year.

 

They were educated in a school and college system which is overwhelmingly female (77% of American school teachers are women). I don’t bring this up to criticise female teachers or suggest they are not as good as men; many female teachers are great at teaching mathematics, music, geography and history. But it’s just harder for women to teach boys how to be men.

As a result of the growing feminisation of education and society at large, many young men were not taught to channel their aggression, anger and competitiveness into productive activity. They were instead taught to suppress these natural male urges. And as any therapist will tell you, you can’t keep the things you suppress down forever.

Gen Z men spent their entire formative years lagging behind women in education and now earnings (young women without children outearn men).

And for the entirety of this time, they were told that “all men are trash”, “the future is female” and that they were to blame for every ill of humanity. It may be true that women haven’t always had a fair deal in society but that was never the fault of 15-year-old Zoomer boys, who understandably bristle at being held responsible for something they neither created nor benefitted from. And because they’re white men, nobody cares about their problems.

 

Is it really a surprise that some of them are resentful, angry and openly rebellious?

This perfect storm of alienation and the dearth of male guidance presents a lucrative opportunity for a new breed of influencer. Unlike fathers, uncles, male teachers, sports coaches and so on, Fuentes is not motivated by a desire to make a positive impact on the lives of the boys who listen to him. A father is incentivised to raise his sons in a way that makes them resist their worst instincts. As an influencer who makes money getting views online, Fuentes is incentivised to do the exact opposite.

But the reason Fuentes delights in saying Hitler was “very cool” is not only a transgressive revolt against the puritanical “gay race communism” rammed down his generation’s throat during the woke era and a desire for clicks.

It’s also because to a generation which lacks the deeply-ingrained taboo against fascism, there is no reason why fascism wouldn’t be the answer. Some of their great grandparents thought fascism was a great idea for many of the same reasons they do!

Don’t believe me? Look at the other side of the political spectrum. The British and American Left is rapidly rediscovering its love for communism. Old ideas - and old hatreds - are returning across the Western world. No matter their views on illegal immigration, nobody who understands history can hear the AfD chanting “Auslander Raus” in Germany without feeling at least some instinctive discomfort.

I have called this faction the “Woke Right”. It is a term many are desperate to argue with me about, but few deny the phenomenon I am describing: a white identitarian movement which, like the Woke Left, believes in oppressor-oppressed dynamics, racial justice and a conspiratorial force holding them back. On the Woke Left, the root of all evil was the patriarchy, imagined as a cabal of white men whose sole purpose was to deny equality to women and minorities. On the Woke Right, it was initially the globalists, but, as I predicted in this article it has now evolved into simply “the Jews”, who are responsible for the suffering of the disadvantaged and demonised white man.

This is what people actually mean when they talk about the collapse of the post-WW2 order. Shocked by the desolation caused by that war and the evils of fascism, and coming so soon after the “the war to end all wars”, the West decided it might be a good idea to lay down some spoken and unspoken rules about what we can and can’t do.

One conclusion was that we let down a persecuted minority and we must never do so again. By the mid-1990s, the conclusion remained but the rationale began to slip from our collective memories. The lesson of the Holocaust became quasi-religious dogma, culminating in the deranged notion that “no human is illegal”. The result was mass uncontrolled immigration into every Western country for the ensuing decades.

Another was the increased focus on compassion and inclusion. It’s baddies like Hitler that are obsessed with strength and purity, went the logic. Therefore, we must instead embrace empathy and diversity. This is what historian Tom Holland means when he says that we no longer ask “What would Jesus do?” and instead ask “What Would Hitler Do?” and then do the opposite.

These well-intended norms have now been taken to such extremes that they increasingly produce extreme results such as open borders, legalised crime, rampant homelessness and gender ideology.

The backlash against all of this was eminently predictable. So much so, that many of us have warned for many years that wokeness would produce an equal and opposite reaction on the right. How could it not? Did you really think that telling one group that they’re bad because of their sex and skin colour while celebrating and promoting other groups for the same traits would not produce an identitarian backlash?

In any case, “Groypers”, as Fuentes fans are known, are not conservatives. They are the voice of a generation which feels ignored, mistreated and unfairly maligned. They don’t want “small government”, they want revenge.

The bulwark against this voice of Cain was shot in the neck and killed on a college campus a few weeks ago. Charlie Kirk was single-handedly leading the Zoomer Right away from bitterness and resentment, towards God, family and service. How and whether the remaining principled conservatives try to resolve this attempt to take over their movement remains to be seen.

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