Good morning, Digital Neighbors! Happy Saturday, ADD Irregulars @ Padre’s, Friends & Refugees at the Report, and all you Phamily members over at Phetasy. I hope this extended weekend and time-warping holiday are treating you well. One of the most amazing things about Thanksgiving and the weeks that follow leading up to New Year’s is that they are filled with an abundance of memories. Other than family vacations and a few other standout moments through the years, how much do we actually remember well?
Thanksgiving and Christmas carry such powerful memories—and so much emotional freight—that one is either pushed to overflowing gratitude or, just as often, the opposite: exhaustion and disappointment. I pray that your present-day experience of these memorable days is filled with the judgments and expectations that open you to gratitude and safeguard you from unrealistic demands on yourself and others that lead to stress, disappointment, and further cynicism about the goodness these days can hold.
I want neither sugar-coated exaggerations about the past nor to wallow in all that was imperfect so that it robs me of hope and gratitude. It is so difficult to navigate these feelings if you don’t bridle them with good thoughts and acts of the will that tilt you toward gratitude for all things—even the difficult experiences of the past that helped shape the person you are today and that, with enough grace and reflection, become the seedbed for thanksgiving. I have found it is not a place of arrival so much as a balancing act I strive to maintain through good habits and by intentionally praying to the Giver of all good things. A few quotes on memory and reflection as this week of gratitude runs its course. I hope and pray you all have a wonderful Saturday, dear digital neighbors.
“It would add much to human happiness if an art could be taught of forgetting all of which the remembrance is at once useless and afflictive, that the mind might perform its functions without encumbrance, and the past might no longer encroach upon the present.” — Samuel Johnson
“The one who thinks over his experiences most, and weaves them into systematic relations with each other, will be the one with the best memory.” — William James
“To be able to enjoy one’s past life is to live twice.” — Martial
“Life is all memory, except for the present moment that goes by you so quick you hardly catch it going.” — Tennessee Williams
Thanksgiving Dinner - Davey Gravy - Unsplash